This one is for all you ladies out there (and, who knows, maybe some guys). I was wondering the other day what it is specifically about women that makes their husbands want to block everything that comes out of our mouths. If any of you girls have an answer for this, please let me know. I will tell you my theory and feelings on the subject.
First of all, I have to get this out. I love my husband dearly and wouldn’t trade him in on another man for any amount of money, blackmail or other reason. He is my other half, my soul mate, my one and only in this lifetime (and, possibly any previous or future lifetimes). With that said, I must say that at times I would like to take the nearest pillow, place it gently over his smiling face and sit on it with my big butt until he stops breathing. (Of course, this is just a fantasy of mine and I would never do it — although the other night when he was snoring like a bear in hibernation . . . hmmm, nope, never mind, wouldn’t do it then either).
Anyway, what makes me say this is . . . Have you ever had a ten minute conversation with your husband, pouring your heart out or just talking because you are stressed to hell and he’s the only one you have to talk to to ask him his opinion to which his reply is “what”? While I cannot say what causes this problem in every man, I can only tell you what I believe causes it in my man. Everyone take a deep breath, here comes the biggest secret, I’m going to tell you why men won’t listen to a word that comes out of your mouth. . . ready? It’s because they simply don’t want to listen. Gasp! “No!”
I do truly believe the answer is that simple because let’s face it, all the excuses we can think up can pretty much be debunked. For example: Myth #1. Maybe his hearing is going bad. Debunked #1. No way, because I don’t know about your man, but my man can’t here me when I’m a foot away but he can hear me opening a freaking bag of candy from down the road. Myth #2. Maybe he’s having trouble multitasking, the TV was on after all. Debunked #2. Then why the hell can he watch TV, eat popcorn and play games on the computer all at the same time? Myth #3. Maybe he’s just too tired. Debunked #3. Open a can of beer or turn on a football game and see how fast your tired man comes to life (insert whatever your man loves most).
Now, while I understand that there are those of us girls (sorry girls) that like to constantly run our mouths and never shut up for two seconds, it does not mean that we never need our man to listen to us.
Yes, yes, I know you are all saying, but Sky, I’ve told my man that it upsets me when he doesn’t listen and he says it’s not true, that what I say is important. Let me just tell you that three quarters of the time he is listening to you, it’s really all an act. His mind is a blank fog of football, gaming, candy, beer or Jessica Alba.
Do I think that this means our men don’t care about us? Don’t love us? No. I honestly don’t know what makes your attentive man suddenly turn deaf to your voice within five years of being together. This I will say though. And, men, you really should listen up this one time in you life to what a woman has to say.
Women by nature are nurturers, lovers, fierce mothers. We are sensitive, tough and insecure at times even if we don’t show it. Yes, we have our faults too, and I would never claim otherwise. But, if you don’t pay attention to your woman, make her feel loved, wanted, cared for, she will stop caring as much. The little things she used to do that you have ignored for so long will start disappearing. You know, the way she used to try to touch you all the time by maybe holding your hand, or brushing her fingers through your hair. Or how about the way she snuggles up to you on the couch or simply asks how your day was. We need to be listened to, especially by our man, which is the most important person in our lives, our best friend, the one being that we most want to please.
Simply put. When men don’t listen to their women, they are saying, “you aren’t important.” What you have to say is not worth my time.