Do I need to repeat the title? When did marriage become such a casual fling?
This deeply saddens me that so many people apparently have such a low opinion of marriage. I mean what is the divorce rate now? Is it still around 50%? Maybe higher? I don’t know. All I know is it is too high. And you know what, I’m somewhat of a hypocrite because I have been divorced once. I will only defend myself as to say I was eighteen at the time and thought I knew everything. Well I obviously didn’t.
So I’m not talking about divorces such as mine. Young love is mostly stupid and any of us over thirty know that nine times out of ten that is the absolute truth. So I won’t even consider these divorces as part of my rant. No, I’m talking about those of us old enough to know better. Those of us old enough to know that love should be a very sacred and loyal thing. Those of us who “should” know that when someone loves us unconditionally it is not cool to bang the secretary or pool boy just because they are hot and we can.
Why even get married at all in that case? Does anyone actually take the time to get to know their mate and their needs and their likes and their dislikes well enough any more before getting married? I’m starting to believe that people are getting more of the mind set of just “trying it out” for now and if it doesn’t work, well I can always get a divorce. Wouldn’t it be better to try dating for awhile longer or even living with the person and being sure. Now I know there are still those that have trouble with the concept of “shacking up” before marriage, but come on I can’t remember the last time I met a virgin (not that there aren’t and believe me I applaud and salute all of you who do wait). So am I to believe that people get married to have sex? I don’t think so.
So again, why even get married. Marriage is not a casual fling. I am now married to my soul mate whom I will never part from unless I or he is dead. And for those who doubt it, doubt away, it does not matter to me because I know as well as others who have experienced this type of love that it is the truth and that love is not to be taken for granted.
Marriage is caring, sharing, loving, giving and yes, taking. Marriage is holding the wastebasket for your spouse to puke in when he’s sick, or getting up out of the warm bed on a freezing cold night to go get her some tylenol for her cramps. Marriage is never doubting that there is always someone there for you, always someone at your back, always someone you can count on, always someone that will love you even when you are being a total bitch.
Marriage is not a casual fling and should not be considered so. If you aren’t sure, don’t do it. It’s not worth the hurt it will cause. If you find yourself in a marriage that you want ended, don’t end it by screwing around. At least have the decency to tell this person, the person that you vowed to love and be loyal to, the person that loves you that you want to end it. At least give them that much respect. It’s not much to ask. No one should be that selfish. Please show a little compassion to the one you love, or at least used to love.
